HOW DO I DEAL WITH A LOVED ONE'S NEGATIVITY?
When it comes to questions about the Law of Attraction, the questions I receive the most from my audience are around how to deal with negativity of others. It seems many, many people have negative loved ones in their life that they feel are holding them back from their good. Don't you wish there was a pill for that?
What do you do when you're trying to change your own beliefs and own thought patterns so you have more hope and more expectancy of good things in your life? Gosh, it's hard enough being vigilant about what's going on for you never mind having to add other people's 'stuff' into the mix.
When people start to learn more about the Law of Attraction and how much impact our thoughts, feelings and beliefs have on the outcome of their life, they obviously start to try to monitor that more closely. Essentially, positive thoughts, feelings and beliefs create positive outcomes in one's life. Negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs create negative outcomes. Simple, right? Absolutely, this is a simple concept. Easy to implement? Well, not always.
This brings us back to our wanna-be positive person with the negative-nelly spouse or close family member. We've all been through this scenario where we are having a pretty good day. We've been at home or at work doing our own thing and feeling pretty good about ourselves and our prospects and you connect with your loved one and BANG their mood or words immediately impact you. You've now gone from feeling pretty on top of the world to wanting to rip someone's face off. Not good. This shift has happened all because of the impact of this other person's mood or words. Now I'm going to shift that statement a tad and say this instead - this shift has happened all because of the impact you let this other person's mood or words have on you. Get it? It's a choice.
Why would we let someone else's words or moods or energy impact us when the effects can be so detrimental? For the most part, it's because we've learned this from our parents or caregivers. It really is a survival skill that has helped many people survive their childhood years. This behaviour is also called co-dependency, but I'm not going to get into this here. The fact is, as we get older this survival skill becomes less useful and often harmful to our self-esteem. And, with Law of Attraction, succumbing to others bad moods only helps to ensure that the life that we truly want stays at bay.
How DO you deal effectively with someone else's negativity?
There are a number of ways but let's explore one here that I have found works very effectively with situations where you know ahead of time that the person you will encounter is going to be negative.
This technique goes by a variety of names but all I want you to do is to imagine the situation you are about to go into and ask yourself this question....what is the best outcome I could imagine that I would like to have happen? Notice I'm not asking you to imagine the most likely outcome or even the best outcome considering the source. I want you to imagine YOUR best outcome.
I walked through this exercise with a woman who was about to go and meet her ex-husband to do the weekend kid exchange thing. As she describes, their interactions never go well and are always very strained and frustrating. She wanted that to change. I asked her to imagine the best outcome and, of course, to what she thought was possible. I egged her on and asked again for her best outcome. Next, she was to really imagine how incredible that would feel to have the outcome happen that she wanted to happen. We got her to stay in that moment for a bit and really feel the feelings. Not a hard process - quick and easy. When I next saw her she mentioned that her meeting with her ex was the most positive she had had in a long time and he even asked her why they were getting along so well!
Why did this happen? She shifted her energy and therefore everything else shifted. Simple Law of Attraction in practice. Try it out next time you're expecting a lousy encounter, my bet is that you'll have better results and less negativity.
You deserve to have what you want - make it happen!
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Article obtained from:Law of Attraction Coach and Podcaster, Karen Luniw, publishes The Law of Attraction Tips weekly with thousands of subscribers and she also produces a Top US and Canadian Podcast, The Law of Attraction Tips that you can find on Itunes. If you're ready to have more of what you want in your life, make more money, have better relationships and have more fun get your FREE tips now at www.thelawofattractiontips.com
Friday, June 27, 2008
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
On being afraid
Don't be afraid if things seem difficult in the beginning. That's only the initial impression. The important thing is not to retreat; you have to master yourself."
Olga Korbut
Gymnast - Four Time Olympic Gold Medallist
Olga Korbut
Gymnast - Four Time Olympic Gold Medallist
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Jillian Michaels and the Wii
My kids have a Wii and I have been thinking about getting them Wii Fit just to add some more movement into all our lives..when I saw this article this morning, I thot "cool" maybe something I'd really like to do too! I love Jillian's workouts--she kicks my butt tho but it is definitely something I need! LOL! I am working through the "30 Day Shred" and the power sculpt series. Nearly breaking my toe last night has put a damper on my exercise routine for the moment :( :( :( but I figure I'll concentrate on the upper body and not do all the jumping jacks etc. The getting up on my toes to do a plank would just about kill me right now!
Excerpts from the article below: full article available HERE
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Jillian Michaels brings fitness know-how to Wii
Thu Jun 12, 2008 4:05am EDT
By David Ward
SAN DIEGO (Hollywood Reporter) - Game publisher Majesco Entertainment has announced a partnership with celebrity fitness trainer Jillian Michaels for an exercise-themed video game for the Nintendo Wii.
"Jillian Michaels' Fitness Ultimatum 2009," slated for a holiday release, leverages the motion-based Wii system and Balance Board accessory to create a title that combines solid game play with a fitness regimen, advice and exercise techniques provided by Michaels, the strength trainer and life coach on NBC's "The Biggest Loser."
"I truly think this type of product will be instrumental in revolutionizing the fitness industry and will help combat the childhood obesity epidemic in this country," Michaels said.
Reuters/Hollywood Reporter
Excerpts from the article below: full article available HERE
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Jillian Michaels brings fitness know-how to Wii
Thu Jun 12, 2008 4:05am EDT
By David Ward
SAN DIEGO (Hollywood Reporter) - Game publisher Majesco Entertainment has announced a partnership with celebrity fitness trainer Jillian Michaels for an exercise-themed video game for the Nintendo Wii.
"Jillian Michaels' Fitness Ultimatum 2009," slated for a holiday release, leverages the motion-based Wii system and Balance Board accessory to create a title that combines solid game play with a fitness regimen, advice and exercise techniques provided by Michaels, the strength trainer and life coach on NBC's "The Biggest Loser."
"I truly think this type of product will be instrumental in revolutionizing the fitness industry and will help combat the childhood obesity epidemic in this country," Michaels said.
Reuters/Hollywood Reporter
Monday, June 9, 2008
Study on Vitamin E and Alzheimer's Disease
Just another reason I take Vemma :)
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Excerpts from the article with full article available HERE
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New findings presented at the American Academy of Neurology 60th Anniversary Annual Meeting in Chicago show that people with Alzheimer's disease who take vitamin E appear to live longer than those who don't take the vitamin, though more research is needed to confirm these findings.
For the study, researchers followed 847 people with Alzheimer's disease for an average of five years. About two-thirds of the group took 1,000 international units of vitamin E twice a day, along with the Alzheimer’s drug Aricept [CHECK THIS]. Like the drugs Exelon and Razadyne, Aricept is known as a “cholinesterase inhibitor,” a class of drugs that may temporarily slow, but not reverse, the downward progression of Alzheimer’s. Less than 10 percent of the group took vitamin E alone, and approximately 15 percent did not take vitamin E.
The study found people who took vitamin E, with or without an Alzheimer’s drug, were 26 percent less likely to die than people who didn't take vitamin E.
Many people with Alzheimer's or at risk for the disease take vitamin E to protect the brain from damage, even though the vitamin does not have proven benefit for brain health. Vitamin E is a potent antioxidant, a substance that neutralizes highly reactive oxygen molecules (or free radicals) throughout the body, including the brain.
Although nobody knows what causes Alzheimer’s disease, studies show that an excess of free radicals may damage brain cells. Scientists have been studying antioxidants like vitamin E, vitamin C and others to see if they have benefits for people with Alzheimer’s or help prevent the onset of the disease.
Earlier research has suggested that vitamin E may delay the progression of moderately severe Alzheimer’s disease. “Now, we've been able to show that vitamin E appears to increase the survival time of Alzheimer's patients as well," said study author Valory Pavlik, Ph.D., with Baylor College of Medicine’s Alzheimer’s Disease and Memory Disorders Center in Houston. “This is particularly important, because recent studies in heart disease patients have questioned whether vitamin E is beneficial for survival.”
Several large studies of vitamin E for the prevention or treatment of Alzheimer’s are ongoing. One, the PREADVISE, for “Prevention of Alzheimer’s Disease by Vitamin E and Selenium,” trial is attempting to determine if the antioxidant effects of vitamin E and selenium can help to prevent memory loss and dementia in older adults. Another study, sponsored by the Department of Veterans Affairs, is asking whether the combination of vitamin E and Namenda (memantine) slows progression of mild to moderate Alzheimer’s disease.
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Excerpts from the article with full article available HERE
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New findings presented at the American Academy of Neurology 60th Anniversary Annual Meeting in Chicago show that people with Alzheimer's disease who take vitamin E appear to live longer than those who don't take the vitamin, though more research is needed to confirm these findings.
For the study, researchers followed 847 people with Alzheimer's disease for an average of five years. About two-thirds of the group took 1,000 international units of vitamin E twice a day, along with the Alzheimer’s drug Aricept [CHECK THIS]. Like the drugs Exelon and Razadyne, Aricept is known as a “cholinesterase inhibitor,” a class of drugs that may temporarily slow, but not reverse, the downward progression of Alzheimer’s. Less than 10 percent of the group took vitamin E alone, and approximately 15 percent did not take vitamin E.
The study found people who took vitamin E, with or without an Alzheimer’s drug, were 26 percent less likely to die than people who didn't take vitamin E.
Many people with Alzheimer's or at risk for the disease take vitamin E to protect the brain from damage, even though the vitamin does not have proven benefit for brain health. Vitamin E is a potent antioxidant, a substance that neutralizes highly reactive oxygen molecules (or free radicals) throughout the body, including the brain.
Although nobody knows what causes Alzheimer’s disease, studies show that an excess of free radicals may damage brain cells. Scientists have been studying antioxidants like vitamin E, vitamin C and others to see if they have benefits for people with Alzheimer’s or help prevent the onset of the disease.
Earlier research has suggested that vitamin E may delay the progression of moderately severe Alzheimer’s disease. “Now, we've been able to show that vitamin E appears to increase the survival time of Alzheimer's patients as well," said study author Valory Pavlik, Ph.D., with Baylor College of Medicine’s Alzheimer’s Disease and Memory Disorders Center in Houston. “This is particularly important, because recent studies in heart disease patients have questioned whether vitamin E is beneficial for survival.”
Several large studies of vitamin E for the prevention or treatment of Alzheimer’s are ongoing. One, the PREADVISE, for “Prevention of Alzheimer’s Disease by Vitamin E and Selenium,” trial is attempting to determine if the antioxidant effects of vitamin E and selenium can help to prevent memory loss and dementia in older adults. Another study, sponsored by the Department of Veterans Affairs, is asking whether the combination of vitamin E and Namenda (memantine) slows progression of mild to moderate Alzheimer’s disease.
Saturday, June 7, 2008
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Initiative
"Personal initiative is very important if you wish to rise above the crowd. Personal initiative simply means that you will do the thing you ought to do without someone else telling you to do it."
Napoleon Hill
Napoleon Hill
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Words of Wisdom
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
Napoleon Hill
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
Napoleon Hill
Kingman Relay For Life
The relay really opened up some emotions that I have not dealt with in a long time. From the opening ceremonies, the survivor lap, and the luminaries, I just kept thinking about how many lives have been touched by this one disease. There were so many people I knew that were wearing purple survivor shirts, I was amazed at the numbers even though I “know” the statistics—this event brought the statistics on a large scale to life. I have already dealt with cancer on a more personal level. My Dad, Eugene Fusco, died of lung cancer January 1, 1998. Even though it has been over 10 years, there is still a whole, something missing from my life- I am still brought to tears thinking about him. My grandfather also died of cancer-I never had the opportunity to really get to know him because I was so young and he so sick—I sometimes wonder about his life beyond the few stories I have heard.
People are so precious; no one is replaceable or forgettable. I need to keep this message forefront as I go about my days-my daily thoughts, actions, words-everything about who I am and what I do- live on and effect people that I both know and don’t know. How do I want to be remembered? What legacy will I leave behind? Legacies aren’t grand building, huge trusts, foundations or memorials—legacies live on in the people that you have touched in some way…those are the most meaningful. So today I leave you with a quote from a great man:
“Everybody can be great…because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.” Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
People are so precious; no one is replaceable or forgettable. I need to keep this message forefront as I go about my days-my daily thoughts, actions, words-everything about who I am and what I do- live on and effect people that I both know and don’t know. How do I want to be remembered? What legacy will I leave behind? Legacies aren’t grand building, huge trusts, foundations or memorials—legacies live on in the people that you have touched in some way…those are the most meaningful. So today I leave you with a quote from a great man:
“Everybody can be great…because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.” Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
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